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Many times we think we know what we’re supposed to be doing and we get business advice from people we trust about what we should be doing, but if we don’t get the results we expect that can be really frustrating.

So what do you do when networking, marketing, sales, pricing, branding and advertising don’t solve your business problem?

Maybe it’s time to work on yourself? Self-improvement is business development. Do you have the confidence to promote your business boldly? Are you able to connect effectively and easily with your market, prospects, clients, and even friends and family? Are you able to give and receive value equally and speak to the value of your product or service effectively? Do you really have a deep understanding of your market and a desire to serve?

All of these things will impact the results you get in your business. And, if you aren’t getting the results you want it’s easy to think you have a ‘business’ problem, when really you just need to get back to the basics of emotional health.

Let’s get started.


Theresa Vigarino and I have an amazing conversation.

The effects of trauma like childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, bullying, or divorce include things like depression, anxiety, fear, worry, problems expressing anger or desire, and even interfere with our ability to feel joy or happiness.

It’s easy to see, at least in retrospect if not while you’re struggling in the moment, how much these feelings can impact both how you feel about your business and the actual results you’re getting.

Theresa and I break it down and talk about her healing and what you might be able to learn from her experience to move forward in your own life.

You can connect with Theresa at her website, OvercomeTrauma.com, or at any of these profiles:

You can see her TEDx talk at youtube.com/watch?v=no2v6ZSIEm8.

3:00 A history of abuse can set you up to subconsciously always be picking and choosing environments that recreate and force you constantly overcome abuse.

5:00 Frustration is good. It’s good to be so frustrated that you get to the point that you finally say, “Enough!”

6:20 The journey is the destination.

7:45 Know that suffering is temporary.

11:00 Walk through the illusion of being a victim.

12:00 Just hold on to that glimmer of hope that you can have the life of your dreams and take one more step.

15:00 Until we open our eyes, our patterns will continue.

16:35 Decision is the precipice of change.

23:40 There’s no more important work than self-realization

27:15 Just because yesterday was a certain way doesn’t mean that today has to be.

28:00 God wants you to have the best life that you can have for yourself. We have to do the work to get that.

34:00 Do I want to respond as I always have? Or can I ask, “What would my ideal response be?” How would I act then?

38:20 For some reason, we set ourselves up to be the great overcomers. Why make it so hard on ourselves?

41:20 It’s not the situation but the story we wrap around the situation that makes is so difficult.

43:30 When you can get to the point that you can talk about the things that hurt you without re-injuring yourself, that’s when healing and power exist.

48:00 When you are in alignment with your life’s calling, that’s where you’ll find fulfillment.


Just a fireside chat of sorts on the podcast today. I just wanted to let my audience know how the show is doing and what’s been going on in my life, so I spend about 12 minutes just giving a heart felt update and connecting with my audience.

Let me know what you think and I’d love to hear from you if you like the show.



The idea of competing motivations has really been on my mind lately. Feeling simultaneously like I want something and I don’t want something. Feeling bad about good news. Feelings that appear to contradict each other. Without awareness this very common situation can lead to frustration or even disaster. I’ll share a couple examples from my own life and encourage you to look closer at areas where you may be feeling this same kind of ambivalence.


The main thing I took away from this interview with Brett Gajda, host of Where There’s Smoke (http://WhereTheresSmoke.co), was that joy comes from fully expressing yourself.

www.wheretheressmoke.co [click to continue…]


Here’s the conclusion of this series of podcasts on Inner Child Healing, which I recorded with Jade Inspiration.

Inner Child Healing might help you if you have experienced emotionally traumatic events like bullying, abuse, parental divorce or substance abuse, or the like.

If you find that depression, anxiety, fear, anger are holding you back in your career or your life, or if you keep running into limiting beliefs or self-protective behaviors that aren’t serving your goals and desires, you need to check out this series.


I continue my series on Inner Child Healing with Jade Inspiration in this episode. Many times people don’t have (or don’t remember or don’t recognize the impact of) emotional trauma on their present experience. Does that mean we don’t have to worry about it? What if we’re still struggling, how do we deal with those situations? Jade and I answer these questions.


Katherine and I have a great conversation about how unhealed emotional trauma and negative emotional energy from our past affects our present. If events and situations in our present are triggering us and causing us to reactivate and utilize that negative energy old habits, beliefs, and behaviors from our past we need to first recognize the impact that’s having on our results today and then do the work to heal the trauma and let go of all that negative emotion and energy.


Jade Inspiration of The Right On Baby Podcast and I talk about Valentines Day and love; loving yourself and loving others.


In a follow up to the previous episode where Jade Inspiration, host of Right On Baby: The Inner Growth Show, and I co-host and talk about Inner Child Healing (http://bebuildhave.com/86), we get together again and discuss how events from our childhoods shape the rest of our lives.

It’s as children that we learn how to use all the tools in our emotional toolbox and develop our styles of relating and beliefs and behaviors.

It may not even be possible to overstate how big a role our childhood experiences play in shaping our lives.