Most business owners recognize that happiness, success, and confidence are qualities that are attractive and help you to be more effective in networking, sales, and leadership. So, it’s a reasonable question to ask, “How can I appear more confident?” I’ll offer some tips in this episode.
The Key To Feeling More Confident And Attractive In Your Business
If you want to be more attractive to your market and more effective in your networking, sales, and leadership projecting an image of happiness, success, and confidence may be your best approach.
But what if you don’t feel happy, successful, and confident?
Your natural thought process might tell you that if you can appear more confident, then you’ll get the results you see others who appear more confident getting, and then you’ll feel more confident.
But the truth is, acting like something you’re not – in this case happy, successful, and confident – doesn’t make you feel better, it makes you feel worse. It makes you feel like a fraud.
And we’ve all seen it in others, right? People trying to act like something they’re not come across as inauthentic, arrogant, slimey, and uncomfortable.
So what do you do?
The first thing I’d like to remind you of is that happiness, success, and confidence are your natural state. It may not feel like it right now, but it’s not because you don’t have those feelings, it’s because you’ve forgotten.
Much like a sufferer of chronic back pain may have forgotten what it was like to be mobile and pain free, the pain they’re experiencing is a sign that something went wrong – there was an injury that caused the pain. Similarly, the negative feelings you have in place of happiness, success, and confidence are your emotional pain. Once the underlying injury is healed, you can return to your natural state of happiness, success, and confidence.
Meditation and quiet reflection can be your best tools for recognizing what that injury is, and self-compassion your most healing salve.
I get that those don’t feel very actionable or may be unsatisfying, but I’d encourage you to suspend your disbelief and you may be surprised by how quickly your external circumstances and results start to chance when you get you start cultivating true feelings of confidence and happiness.
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P.S. If you liked the tips provided in this episode you might like my free, 20-minute guided meditation.