The most common questions I get from coaching clients and business owners who are feeling stuck or like they aren’t making the progress they want in their businesses are, “Why?” and “How?” Why is it happening and how do I fix it. And it makes sense to start there. But they’re not the right questions to ask.
How and Why of Getting Unstuck In Your Life and Business
If you’re trying to change something it makes perfect logical sense to start by asking “Why is this happening? (So I can stop it)” and “How do I change it?” The problem is if we were able to hear the answer we wouldn’t have to ask the question.If no answer will satisfy curiosity, you didn't really ask a question. Click To Tweet
In the past year I was exposed to the concept that if there’s no answer that will satisfy curiosity, then you don’t really have a question. That can be tough to wrap your mind around, I know it was for me. But the implications are powerful. If you’re not really asking a question then you’re just making a statement. So what belief or assumptions are exposed by your statement. If you want change, start there.
Yesterday in the car I was listening to the Addicted2Success Podcast and the guest, Sheevaun Moran, shared that being stuck can be be characterized by two questions – Why? And, How? She shared that in the context of stuckness, Why is a question of victimization and how is a downward circular spiral.
That can be hard to accept because it’s only natural to think that there must be an answer that we can understand to these simple questions. But that’s the problem – they’re not simple questions. They represent out underlying beliefs and assumptions that got us into our current situation to begin with.
But this is also why finding the right questions is so powerful. Quotes abound from the likes of Albert Einstein and Tony Robbins that show us the power of finding the right questions in leading us to the right answers.The right answer is hidden behind the right question. Click To Tweet
But even though asking great questions that leads my coaching clients to great clarity and focus is, they tell me, my super power, I still struggle to do this for myself. But that’s what coaches are for – to give us that outside perspective and help us see our situations and our selves in new ways.
So stop being so hard on yourself and get some perspective.
In this video I mentioned Sheevaun Moran’s appearance on the Addicted2Success podcast, which I love. You might, too. If you’d like to check it out, here’s a link:
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P.S. If you liked the tips provided in this episode you might also get value from my free report, 3 Steps to Increasing the Value of Your Time.