Do you ever have people telling you how confident, successful, and happy you seem, but internally you cringe and think to yourself, “If you only knew the truth”? Or worse, live with the fear that they actually will find out the truth and that you’ll be exposed for the fraud that you are?
Worried About Others Discovering You’re A Fraud?
The tendency to minimize or explain away accomplishments and successes to luck, timing, or chance can make it very difficult to ever enjoy success. Combine that with an overarching fear that you’ll be discovered as a fraud or that others will realize that you’re really not worthy or good enough and you’ve got the basic ingredients for impostor syndrome.
The constant stress created by this dynamic can often leave business owners feeling depressed, anxious, or struggling with low-self confidence, self-doubt, and shame. It’s no wonder that in this situation we often turn to addiction for comfort or escape.
But here’s what you need to know: It’s based on a lie.
A lie that you were told, likely at a young age by someone you trusted and respected, which you swallowed hook, line, and sinker.
The lie that you, exactly as you are and just for being you, aren’t worthy, aren’t valuable, or aren’t good enough. The lie that you must perform, or accomplish, or prove your worth through actions or results.
But that’s the rub. There’s nothing you can ever do externally, no result or success you can ever accomplish, that can prove your intrinsic value. It’s just not possible. But this is what you’re trying to do and this is why you’re afraid that you’ll be discovered.
But it’s simply not true.
So start with that. The first step to overcoming Impostor Syndrome is to accept that despite your belief, and all the evidence, and your own experience, you bought into this lie.Impostor Syndrome is based on a lie. But here's the truth... Click To Tweet
Accept that the truth is you are good enough. You are worthy. You are valuable. Exactly as you are just for who you are, needing nothing else.
And from there, you can work backwards to uncover the damage that had been done by the lie, but also begin to let go of the conflict and the impossible task of trying to prove to the world that you’re good enough. It just can’t be done, but the truth is that it doesn’t need to be done.
Whatever you do will be enough as long as it’s aligned with the intrinsic value of who you are.
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P.S. If you liked the tips provided in this episode you might also get value from my free report, 3 Steps to Increasing the Value of Your Time.