How you handle disappointment and success will largely determine your experience. You can count on both in your life, but can you accept that?
How to Handle Success and Disappointment
As humans it is our nature to hunger for perfection. We desire complete and lasting satisfaction and immediate gratification of our desires. That’s just how we are.
But in this world it’s simply not possible.
Christians would say we’re sinners who were made for perfection but born into an imperfect world. Buddhists would say life is suffering. Pragmatists might simply say there’s no such thing as perfect.
But perfect is sill our desire.
The the challenge we face is how to cope with this reality.
You have a couple paths to choose from.
You could selfishly demand and take what you want from others. Your only concern could be your own personal satisfaction at any cost. The problem with this approach is that the best you can hope for is compliance and others have to lose for you to win. There’s no true happiness here.
You could live in frustrated anger and resentment that comes from demanding satisfaction and failing to achieve it. You can try to control everything and everyone around you, either through force or manipulation. When those methods fail you can resort to judgement and criticism. You’ll spend your energy tearing down others, or possibly yourself and you’ll live a life filled with stress, worry, anxiety, or fear.
You could take a more gentle path of constantly seeking. Yes, you’ll still feel jealousy or envy and you’ll always be living for tomorrow, but you can keep telling yourself that success and happiness are right around the corner. When it eludes you, you’ll tell yourself that life is just unfair. You can explain away most disappointment with this method, but will also seldom experience true joy.
Or you could live with gratitude and acceptance of a life that enjoys the process. You can appreciate the fleeting tastes of deep satisfaction, with the knowledge that they’ll come again. You can long for more, but also appreciate what you have. You know life isn’t perfect, but you can have a great time along the way.
Which path will you choose?
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